Anger, jealousy, fear – 3 of the most common emotions we all experience, 3 of the most powerful energies that can screw people up.
Are they good or bad? Are they harmful or beneficial? Should we suppress or express them? There’s no one answer to that.
Don’t get into an intellectual debate on this.
Logic solves many problems, but life is so much bigger than merely using rationality to understand things. That’s why Sigmund Freud couldn’t figure out what a woman wants despite his 30 years of research into the feminine soul.
The word “Emotion” comes from the root word “Motion”. It’s a movement. They move. They come and go just like farts in the wind.
So this moment you may feel sad, but the next moment you may feel joyful.
This moment you may feel angry, but the next moment you may feel compassionate.
This moment you may be full of love, but the next moment you may be filled with hatred.
But that’s not you.
You are not your emotions, you are not your thoughts, you are not your body. You are a witness to all these ebbs and flows and the key to “enlightenment” is becoming more aware, becoming more conscious.
Every emotion, every feeling, every sentiment, every thought – as real as they feel to you at any given moment – comes from the outside.
Your mind is filled with stuff that’s instilled upon you from the outside, but you are beyond your mind. It’s easy to get identified with them, but you are bigger than that.
An integrated person is one who can be constructive and destructive, who can create order and chaos, who is capable of using the masculine AND feminine energy to serve the greatest good. They have choices and don’t get caught up in the external things that are influencing their conscious being.
All the emotions, attachments, desires, neediness are just projection of the mind.
They are things society shoveled on you ever since your childhood. All the dos and don’ts, shoulds and should-nots, good and bad, rights and wrongs – all these are merely ideas that aren’t stemmed from your core being.
Become aware of these heavily manipulated ideas that attack your consciousness via your minute-to-minute self-talk.
They can be cunning. They can be convincing. They can be warnings.
But they are manipulating your thoughts, feelings, actions, behaviors and future possibilities based on someone else’s limits, fears and ideas. Be aware of that.
So next time you feel angry, next time you feel jealous, next time you feel sacred…
Stop, catch yourself at that moment, be aware of those strong emotions that are agitating you, and notice WHY you’re feeling such emotion.
Do not suppress or repress that, but ask yourself WHY and WHAT triggered that? It’s not the other person’s fault, they’ve only created a circumstance as a stimulus, but there’s a gap between the stimulus and your response. There’s choice.
Respond, do not react.
Reaction is dominated by the other person, you get affected easily. Response is a choice out of freedom, it doesn’t depend on the other person.
That’s how you become conscious and free.
That’s how you develop awareness of your emotions.
That’s how you start to connect deeply with your real authentic core of who you truly are without the noise of ideologies forced upon you.
Asia’s Honest Productivity Coach For Men
P.S. You do notice the vibe I’m giving off today is kinda different right?
Yeah, that’s just because I am writing with a different kind of energy than the usual dominant, passionate, warrior kind of pushing energy.
A well-developed masculine man should be able to get access to his different energies, archetypes, or even “personalities”. Sometimes we just get too caught up in the routine that we under-develop the other “sides” of ourselves in our full spectrum of who we are and who we can be.
ANYWAYS! One significant badass influencer of mine in the last couple of years is this crazy guy called Osho. Tony Robbins called him “the most dangerous man since Jesus Christ.” and I can totally understand why.
So I literally just finished one of Osho’s book called <Emotions: Freedom from Anger, Jealousy and Fear> and man, it was another masterpiece for truth and paradigm shift.
Whether you consider yourself a spiritual person or not, a good guy or a bad guy, I highly recommend you to give it a go and be open minded about the ideas there.
Be warned, Osho can kinda mind-fvck you because what he shares contains controversial materials that the corporations, the government, the church probably won’t want you to know. You parents and friends may not even learn about these things.
DO NOT read Osho’s books unless you’re ready to remain non-judgmental.
The moment you label things as good or bad, the moment you step into a new territory with prejudice and assumptions, you are closed and lose the ability to transform your life to the next level.